I ticked them off, so what.

Yesterday, in a fit of frustration, I wrote a long letter to the agency that is handling PBJ's adoption. It has been 14 months and with everything that has happened I feel that my frustration is well earned. I didn't accuse them of anything, I simply laid out the facts of our case so far, asked for better communication, pointed out that our interests haven't always been a priority and asked for more help.

What I got back was a long, rambling letter accusing us of 'jumping on the blame bandwagon' and having a 'lynch mob mentality'. Um, excuse me, but I said nothing of the sort. This is the kind of intimidation bull that our old, very bad agency used. We ask for them to do the job we paid them to do and we get accusations and attacks. Well, fine. You want to play the adverserial card, be my guest. Do they have any inkling what kind of damage it would do to their reputation if I publicly revealed all of the details of PBJ's 'mysterious' head injury? I am sure that most intelligent people have already figured out that a baby cannot get an almost 5 inch long fracture in their skull in a simple fall. Or that the foster home that was chosen and monitored by said agency was the scene of the 'accident'. Or that she laid there for more than 24 hours before she was taken to see the doctor, and only then becasue she was unconscious and seizing? Or what if I told everyone that not only was she injured, but she was filthy, malnourished, had parasites and a urinary infection, had hair so matted on her head I had to cut it out, and that her fingernails looked like they hadn't been cut in months. Or that the foster family dropped her at the hospital with no clothes, no formula, no diapers, nothing. Just the mismatched, too small shirt and pants she was wearing. I left dozens of outfits, toys and a bouncy chair for her in July. All of it gone, most likely sold for money. Or how about the fact that the CT scan of her brain revealed a previous injury that was in the process of healing already? So who the heck was checking on her? We paid the foster care fees and medical fees faithfully each month for our daughter, and had supplied the foster family with everything they needed to take care of her, and yet no one ever checked on her.

So yeah, you want to accuse me of playing the blame game, go right ahead. You want to make it MY fault for not understanding how 'the system works', be my guest. BUT, I know right from wrong and I know what happened. I know where the failures occurred. I know who let that precious baby down. And I know I don't have to form a lynch mob. All I have to do is go public with the truth.....

Mainstreet Adoptions, you were warned.