Friday, February 22, 2008

Not offended

Pat, (and others)
I was not offended at all by your comment. I do not get offended easily and I work very hard at being open m inded in all things. The truth is that we are very concerned about what is really going on with the BM and what will happen to PBJ. All of the reports we had up until just very recently indicated the BM was young, very shy, uneducated and didn't speak spanish, but that she had made the arrangements during her pregnancy to relinquish the baby. She travelled from her small village to a larger town to give birth in the hospital, and had a representative of the agency there with her throughout the delivery. I checked into this at the time of referral since I had by then discovered the truth about the corruption in Guatemala. It wasn't until January that we heard anything about her mental condition. Then huge red flags went up. We will do whatever is in the best interests of PBJ once we know some truths. As far as us being able to care for a special needs child, you can rest assured on that one. We have already lined up specialists here at Texas Children's. Her records have been reviewed by one of the nations top pediatirc neurologists. She is on the list for early intervention assessment as soon as she comes home. We have great insurance, luckily. We have a full time Nanny who is also trained in special needs kids. We are as ready as we can be to meet her every need. But, after saying that, I realized it sounded as though I was listing our resume to prove we are what is best for PBJ. What I mean is we will DO our best for her. That does not mean that we discount a birth mothers rights and feelings.
The people we have helping us are not AS. We used them in our first adoption and I know firsthand their limitations. Instead I am using someone private who can make calls and go talk to people. It is hopefully just a case of misunderstanding and will be cleared up (in a legit manner) soon.

By the way, my mother gives me her 'opinions' all the time and I just tell her I will listen but I may not take her advice. I usually think about what she says and learn from it. Only with an open mind and an open heart can we become the best we can be!

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wendy,
God bless you.
No matter what anyone says,does,thinks or comments, God has top control. ALL things are possible with God, as He is able to move mountains. Im sure you know this, because you are a Christlike lady. By the way I have a son who is 16 yrs old and he was healthy until age 10, when he was stricken with multiple diagnoses, medically and mentally. He recieves specialized care from the Cleveland Clinic, and takes major medicines daily. The doctors say he will probably have these life altering conditions for the rest of his life. 2 years later, we decided to adopt a little girl from Guatemala. We now have 1 bio son, and 1 adopted daughter. The Lord has carried us thru some very deep dark waters, even though things for us seemed very bleek, we never lost our faith in our Lord and Savior. He never fails us. I would much rather put my whole trust in him than in human beings. Wendy I think you are an awsome woman, with a heart of gold.
You have a beautiful family, and I have faith that one day you will be able to bring your babies home to join you all. Again, God bless you and keep you, and those 2 precious angels.
P.S. The reason I told a brief version of my story is because I know first hand that while people sometimes fail us, God does not. Keep your faith Wendy, no matter what anyone says about you having no control over what happens in Guat, take comfort knowing that God has taken the control seat for you.. :) :) :)
Love Hugs Blessings, Laura

Andrea said...

Wendy-I read your blog all the time. I love reading about the adventures of your family. Quite frankly, Levi has made me laugh out loud (and maybe even a snort or two) more than once. I have admired your grace in this process. I think how you've handled things is just incredible. I admire and respect you more than I could ever express here on a comment post. I will continue to follow your journey and help pray those little ones HOME!!

Ellie said...

Wendy...

My heart aches for you and your family... YOU ARE ONE OF THE STRONGEST PEOPLE I KNOW...

I feed from your strength... And, I know you want only whats best for YOUR children. I have no doubt that you will and can take care of your children regardless of their needs...

I am out of touch for a little while, but am able to read your blog...

Lots going on here, not posted on blog...

Lots of doctors appointments... Yes to tethering... Going to Genetics specialist next week. Even though problems are arise, he still is the happiest baby ever...

Just remember... I love you, Love your Kids... and know that you ARE AMAZING...

Hugs
Ellie

Anonymous said...

Wendy,
You are a woman of remarkable strength and character. You will make it through this, no matter what the outcome. I know you have it in your heart to bear what will be b/c you are seeking truth. Keeping you in my prayers...

Baby John's Crib said...

Love your positive attitude!

You are an inspiration to this negative thinker.

Anonymous said...

WOW - That is all I can really say...