Not offended

Pat, (and others)
I was not offended at all by your comment. I do not get offended easily and I work very hard at being open m inded in all things. The truth is that we are very concerned about what is really going on with the BM and what will happen to PBJ. All of the reports we had up until just very recently indicated the BM was young, very shy, uneducated and didn't speak spanish, but that she had made the arrangements during her pregnancy to relinquish the baby. She travelled from her small village to a larger town to give birth in the hospital, and had a representative of the agency there with her throughout the delivery. I checked into this at the time of referral since I had by then discovered the truth about the corruption in Guatemala. It wasn't until January that we heard anything about her mental condition. Then huge red flags went up. We will do whatever is in the best interests of PBJ once we know some truths. As far as us being able to care for a special needs child, you can rest assured on that one. We have already lined up specialists here at Texas Children's. Her records have been reviewed by one of the nations top pediatirc neurologists. She is on the list for early intervention assessment as soon as she comes home. We have great insurance, luckily. We have a full time Nanny who is also trained in special needs kids. We are as ready as we can be to meet her every need. But, after saying that, I realized it sounded as though I was listing our resume to prove we are what is best for PBJ. What I mean is we will DO our best for her. That does not mean that we discount a birth mothers rights and feelings.
The people we have helping us are not AS. We used them in our first adoption and I know firsthand their limitations. Instead I am using someone private who can make calls and go talk to people. It is hopefully just a case of misunderstanding and will be cleared up (in a legit manner) soon.

By the way, my mother gives me her 'opinions' all the time and I just tell her I will listen but I may not take her advice. I usually think about what she says and learn from it. Only with an open mind and an open heart can we become the best we can be!