Adoption Journey

How can such a simple wish turn into such a nightmare. All we wanted was to add a child or two to our family and to share the blessings we have with children. I find myself pondering these questions over and over again. How could it all have gone so wrong? Why us? Why these babies? Why 2 bad cases?

This was a very tough weekend. We learned that the agency will be moving PBJ to a new foster home immediately. They have many reasons but I think the biggest reason is that they are trying to distance themselves from anyone and anything associated with their former Guat coordinator. They made one good point in that if the coordinator did not pay this family all the money due to them the family could use PBJ as collateral to get their money. I don't believe they would do this, but I have no way of knowing for sure. I have demanded a new family that I can communicate with. One that has internet or speaks english. I have also demanded that the new family have the ability to continue with PBJ's therapy and visits to the neurologist. They tell me they are working to arrange this.

I also found out our case did not get registered with the new Central Authority. I got a lot of excuses instead. They told me not to worry because 1) they 'know someone' who can fix it, 2) the judge in the Court of Minors can fix it, and 3) they filed it without the right paperwork and it got kicked out but that holds a spot for us. To me, #3 is our only hope. The new law clearly stated that cases that did not get registered last week would NOT be grandfathered in under the old system. That would mean we would have to wait for the new system to be put in place and then start all over again. No one even knows what the new system will be or when it might be up and running.

As if all that wasn't enough, our lead attorney supposedly quit, the 2nd in charge atty is difficult and not cooperating, and the judge in minor's court has not ruled on our case. The social worker in court feels the birth mother is mentally impaired and incapable of understanding her rights. PGN feels the case is fraudulent because how did the BM pass the initial social worker interview back in 2006 if she barely can speak, is illiterate and mentally impaired? The US Embassy was told by PGN that they feel the case is fraudulent so they have that flagged in her file now. Great.

And through all of this, my mind and my heart keep going back to one sweet little guy who will never be coming home to a family. The precious little guy in the overalls I met on my first visit. The one whose family decided they didn't want him after all once his case was finished. He is essentially abandoned. The family had numerous offers to take him, they just had to finish the adoption and let him come to the US. People offered to repay them all the money they had lost and to help with his paperwork. They didn't want to do that. Instead, they sent letters to Guat declining the child, but not soon enough for him to be available to have a new adoption started before the laws changed. My heart is broken in a thousand pieces for that precious little guy.

And I continue to ask the questions with no answers. Why? How? For what?????